September 21, 2009
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Finding Sitters Online with Sittercity

 

 

A year ago I wrote about finding babysitters online using Craigs List. It’s one of my most trafficked posts and was referenced in a Boston Globe article afterwards. It seems a lot of other moms are also desperately seeking quality babysitters they can’t find in their local neighborhoods.

 

And believe me, I tried. The high school girls on my street are “too busy” to sit what with their academic and sports schedules. I called nearby Fairfield University and received (for $20) a list of a couple hundred students interested in sitting. It was four sheets of densely packed names and contact information. Where to start? Alphabetically? Names that looked like they’d be nice, responsible people? That didn’t seem right. I randomly picked about ten students, emailed or called them, and never heard back.

 

How was I going to find a sitter for an afternoon a week plus occasional weekends? I considered using one of the nanny services friends have used but simply couldn’t swallow having sitters I’ve never met show up at my door for a few hours with my kids. They may be perfectly well qualified and screened by the service, but I need to screen them myself. I wanted some control over the choice.

 

That’s when I tried Sittercity, an online site where you browse a list of sitters in your area or post ads for specific sitting jobs. The sitters have profiles and their schedules online. It seemed like a nice way to pre-screen candidates (yes, a photo speaks a thousand words) yet I would still have control over choosing my sitter. The fee of $80/year (it’s closer to $100 now) seemed pretty steep. But I swallowed their $7/month breakdown and figured that’s a nominal fee to pay to have access to sitters when I need them.

 

Fortunately, you can start with a 7 day free trial and now they offer your money back if you don’t have three responses to your ad in 24 hours. A year ago, I had mixed results in finding a great sitter through Sittercity. Today, it works like a charm. The difference is that the site seems to have reached critical mass in my area and many great local college students post their sitter profiles. During the summer, tons of students home for the summer posted profiles as well. Add to this local nannies who are willing to sit when kids are in school during the day or on weekends and the Sittercity fee opens up a world of sitting choices I wouldn’t have found otherwise.

 

There are two primary ways to use the service:

 

  1. Browse the sitter profiles and contact sitters who look appealing to you with a specific one time or ongoing job.

 

  1. Post an ad for a specific job. This doesn’t need to be just for a regular job. I once couldn’t find an available sitter from ones we knew for a Saturday night engagement. I posted it on Sittercity on Friday and had four responses within an hour. Given that I didn’t know the sitters, I selected one who sat for another family in my town and gave me the reference to call.

 

This Fall, I looked for a sitter for Tuesday afternoons after school. I posted the job and have had about ten responses so far. All the candidates wrote me nice emails formally introducing themselves and their qualifications for the job. It was really rather professional and gave a better sense of the candidates beyond their profiles.

 

I then called each one who sounded like a good fit for a phone interview. If they sounded promising from the phone interview, I invited them to come over and meet me and the kids in person. I usually suggest they care for the kids for a few hours to see how things go. This is the best way for me to assess candidates. I typically have them sit a couple times while I’m home before making a final selection for a regular gig.

 

Several emails came in after I had already started interviewing candidates (it’s wise to take your ad down after the job is filled or you keep getting email from candidates) and found two who would work well.

 

As with my experiences on Craigs List, there was a bummer candidate. This time, she sounded wonderful on the phone but never showed up for the interview and trial play date. Fortunately, I had enough other good candidates to write her off.

 

(I should note that earlier in the year a candidate showed up who appeared to be highly qualified on paper (swim instructor, etc.) But in person she looked slightly medicated and while sweet, I wasn’t leaving my children with her for five minutes. At the time, a few friends had just found great sitters on Sittercity  so I stuck with it!

 

And that’s what makes Sittercity successful for me now. It has the volume of good sitters to compensate for the few irresponsible or deadbeat ones.

 

To check if there are sitters in your area on the site, type in your zip code and see what comes up. Fairfield County, Connecticut, where I live, isn’t listed as an official area covered by Sittercity but there are plenty of sitters in my tiny town and the surrounding area. 

 

All in all, Sittercity has become a great way for me to find a stable of good local sitters. And if none are available for a specific date, I know that I have a good resource to find another one on short notice.

 

September 10, 2009
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School Chat

 

Son’s first few days of Kindergarten were a blur of excitement and energy and a deer in the headlights stare when he got off the big yellow bus. A smart friend shared that she gives her kids cookies for snack to revive them.

 

“It’s unbelievable,” she said. “But you can just watch the life come back into their eyes and they start to perk up again.”

 

Whether it’s been the cookies or just a general stimulation from all the new faces, activities, and learning at school; Son’s been going strong since the first day. I thought his energy would wane after a busy school day but nope, he’s doing laps around the house first thing, running bases mid afternoon and ready for a soccer game later.

 

But getting a download on his day has proved difficult.

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September 2, 2009
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Starting School

 

 

 

 

 

This week Son starts Kindergarten and Daughter starts preschool. We’re more than ready. Okay, I’m as excited to get back on a regular schedule as Son is to climb onto that big yellow bus and Daughter is to, well, she’s more excited about her new ballet class than anything.

 

But mixed with the excitement is a slight sadness to see summer go. So here’s my ode to the long lazy days we’ll soon miss.

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August 21, 2009
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Marble Rules are in Effect for the Duration

 

 

Over the past year I’ve tried several motivational tactics with the kids to curb poor behavior and reward great responsibility.

 

Responsibility Charts

The first was a Responsibility Chart for Son. Melissa and Doug make a nice wooden version of this but I took the cheaper and more personalizable route and bought a simple wipe-off laminated sheet of paper with columns across the top and rows down the side. I wrote the days across the top and down the side listed things like:

 

  • No hitting
  • No potty words
  • Wash hands before meals (without protesting!)
  • Clean up toys
  • Sleep in bed all night

 

Since he can’t read, we had fun drawing little pictures to represent the directive. We could also change the item based on what he needed to work on that week.

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August 12, 2009
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Family Vacation

 

 

Last week we went to the Jersey shore for a family vacation. When I was growing up, my family visited Stone Harbor, NJ every summer and Husband and I decided to try this great family spot with the kids.

 

It was a big hit with a great combination of kids oriented activities such as riding waves, bicycling on flat streets with well marked bike lanes, playgrounds and, of course, a popular homemade ice cream shop.

 

What our vacation lacked was any planned, organized children’s activities run by other people. What it offered was the opportunity for Son and Daughter to stretch their perceptions of themselves. And ours as well.

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July 30, 2009
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Real Mommy Interview: Craving Peace and Quiet and PB Crackers

 

Amy is the mother of four children, two boys and two girls, ages 8, 6, 2 and 9  months, and lives in Massachusetts.

 

 

What time do your kids get up in the morning?

The kids get up at 6:30 and I ignore/pretend morning isn’t coming for as long as I can. Sometimes I get a half an hour.

 

Did any sleep with you last night?

NO…and they don’t usually. Once we wrestle them down they usually stay.

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July 22, 2009
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Field Trip Gone Awry

 

Yesterday, we woke up to a rainy day so I decided to take the kids into New York City to the Museum of Natural History. It was a bit of an impromptu decision – I usually plan well in advance for the hour long trip from our home into NYC – but yesterday I threw a bit of caution to the wind and corralled the kids around 8 am for our journey. I have also committed to taking the kids on “field trips” this summer when we have free no camp or work days.

 

They were thrilled and I figured we’d stop for breakfast at the diner across from the Westport station, catch a train, and arrive at the museum mid-morning. No rush.

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July 16, 2009
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Small Minds, Big Information

 

Last week, I was involved in a minor accident. I was returning home from the beach with Daughter in the back of the minivan. Husband was behind me with Son (he’d met us after work). It had gotten completely dark and as I turned into my driveway, I felt that I hit something. It turned out to be a woman on a bicycle. I hadn’t seen her in the dark. I live on a dark country road, no streetlights, no lights on any of the houses, complete blackness.

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July 7, 2009
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Summer Pool Safety

 

 

This month’s Parents magazine features a story on water safety that will shoot fear into mothers of young kids. Most moms I know already harbor extreme fright about water dangers. So it’s helpful to stay on top of everything we can do to protect our little ones around water.

 

This weekend we went to our second pool party with young kids in tow. It was a huge July 4th bash with many families and children in the four to ten age range. Most of the children knew how to swim. Mine do not.

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June 30, 2009
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Family Siesta

 

 

 

 

For summer, I’m trying to establish a new ritual: the family siesta. Shortly after school ended, I found that our days could be packed with so many fun, tiring activities; that we’d all lose steam by 5 pm. (I’m primarily talking about weekdays, when Husband’s at work and I need to see the kids through dinner, bath and bedtime routines.)

 

So I decided we’d try most days to have Quiet Time around 2 pm. Daughter, who at three years, can lose so much steam without a nap that it actually blows out her ears by 6 pm as her whining turns into one continuous illogical tantrum. This gave us the directive to be home in early afternoon so she could get some Quiet Time (“nap” is now taboo) and I decided to place the QT on Son and I as well.

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